MY NETFLIX FAVOURITES


I don't really tend to do posts like this but recently whilst looking for new Netflix shows to watch I found a few similar posts online, and I loved them, sure Netflix always advertises it's new series or tabloids will review them but I like to read something unbiased and this was a perfect way to do so. I feel as though my taste in shows varies so much, I can be glued to Love Island every night or engrossed in some serial cop drama, I don't really stick to any genre though I do know what I don't like even on just reading a small synopsis.

AM I A SINGLE PARENT?


For some reason I always presume that most of you who read here already follow me on social media, and therefore know most of the goings on in my life. A little naive really given algorithms these days and even I don't see most of what the accounts I follow publish, but it's just something I always assumed given the majority of my traffic to personal posts like these, derives from my social platforms. Anyway, if you didn't know that me and John parted ways, well now you do. Since doing so, I've been asked a lot how I'm finding life as a 'single parent', one well meaning friend even suggested writing that in my social media bios as it's a new niche, and while I agree it's a great way to find other parents in similar situations, I just don't feel like it's me. Yes technically I am single, but am I a single parent? I don't think so.

7 Essentials For Your New Arrival


If you’re expecting and you’re a little bit worried about how to prepare then don’t worry, you have definitely come to the right place. Whether it’s your third child or you first, you need to ensure you’re as prepared as you can be. Luckily, there are lots of essentials you can buy to ensure exactly that. From a crib for them to sleep in to toys that aid development, the more you’re buying in advance the better. With that in mind, here are 7 essentials for your new arrival: 

UPPING YOUR PHOTOGRAPHY GAME


When you work in a creative industry it's always really hard to keep up and there is so much pressure to do so. For me in blogging, I find the most difficult part is getting my images how I want them. If you've followed me long enough you'll know I definitely prefer an outdoors shot as natural lighting just helps me ten fold. I struggle with indoor shots and it really does then limit me in terms of what pictures I can and can't get. That being said I've been thinking about whats to up my photography game and I think investing in some good backdrops, cute props and better lighting would be a good start.

SHAKE UP THE EVERYDAY - WEARING WIGS


There's so many big trends across the beauty industry every year and I feel one of the biggest ones of the last decade has been the rise in more and more people wearing wigs. I think it's fantastic, we should all be able to do whatever we like to switch up our look and I think wearing a wig is probably one of the quickest yet dramatic changes you can make. I've definitely noticed celebrities wigs changing by the week which has easily contributed to helping people be more confident in their hair choices, it's great.


WHY I WEAR HAIR EXTENSIONS


I am all for doing whatever makes you feel good in life, if you want to make changes to your appearance then go for it. For me my hair has always been one of my biggest pet hates, I've just never loved it and even though my natural curls are sure the envy of some, they're the bane of my life. My hair only truly got to a length I was happy with during each of my sons but of course we all know postpartum isn't kind to us and most of the luscious locks I'd grown, fast faded away. So I began to wear hair extensions. Initially clip ins and they really almost instantly gave me the look I was looking for, luckily for me my hair is naturally almost black, so colour matching was never an issue and I could always order what I needed online with ease.


WATCHING FOR HIDDEN COSTS

It’s really easy to just pay your bills and not take a look at what we’re spending. I actually took a look and over the past few months, I caught billing errors that have added up to over $2,000! So after discovering this, I thought it was important to share with you some tips I’ve learned going through this firsthand so you aren’t victims of overpaying.

CONNECTING PARENTS AND PROFESSIONALS | CHILDCARE.CO.UK


I think any working parent will be able to relate to just how stressful finding childcare for your little ones can be. I was really fortunate when I initially returned to work having had Noah, because my Mum (a qualified nursery nurse herself) was able to take the reigns so I didn't have those worries. But having worked as a Nursery Nurse myself too, I have seen the toll it takes on parents when they're trying to find the right form of childcare that suits their family best. These days people work all manner of hours and honestly it's so hard to find what you need, there isn't any childcare manual sadly, although I like to think that Childcare.co.uk is probably the closest thing to that.


'WHAT HAVE YOU DONE AT SCHOOL TODAY?' NOTHING.

Noah started school in January, half days, every day. He turned four before the January term began and luckily for us, that means his school of choice will let him attend every afternoon in a class they call Foundation. It's great, it's been undeniably positive for him and us. I'm watching him flourish more every single week, he'll come out with little phrases that I can't fathom where he has learnt it so it has to be school. Just this week he was telling me that if ships break in the ocean, and leak oil, it will make all the fish poorly 'that won't be good at all will it Mummy?'. It puts a smile on my face, for the first time in four years we're not the sole basis of his learning and it's lovely to hear him spout off these facts that even I forget myself.

WHAT'S A 'REAL' MUM


I feel quite lucky in that my small circle of women is a one that supports, builds up and congratulates each other on everything. Whether one of us got dressed before noon within the first six months of motherhood, or that we managed to cook something other than beige - I know these girls will be there with bells and whistles to triumph together. It seems the vast majority of mothers I follow across social media are very much the same, we understand it's a roller coaster and that the times that we're sitting around all day in our lunch stained pyjamas are far more regular than we all care to admit. If I stood here today and posted on Instagram how I'd lost three stone and suddenly had hips to rival Shakira, I can bet my bottom dollar that people would congratulate me on working so hard. (Note, don't fear, this will never happen, cake is too appealing) But when the likes of Kylie Jenner pop up on my feed, people aren't so kind, I'd go as far as to say they're cruel - with harps of 'this isn't what a real mum looks like'. What's with the double standard, and who is the judge and jury of 'real mums'.

NOAH YOU'RE SIX


My baby you're really a boy now, not that you haven't been since birth but you're growing up so fast, I don't want to take my eyes away for a second. I couldn't be prouder to be your Mummy, you amaze me every single day. Though you're changing right in front of me, your personality remains the same and I couldn't be happier knowing you're still the kind, caring, sweet little boy that started to show way back in 2014.

2020


I'm being cliche before I start this, I already know. I really didn't want to do a whole 'new year, new me' post, because that couldn't be further from my mindset - but it feels like the elephant in the room not to acknowledge it's a brand new year, especially given how much happened in 2019. If you're new here, I am now a single Mum, my choice and one that I am happy with, however it doesn't really mean that 2019 wasn't incredibly hard. A lot of upheaval, admittedly not as much for me as there was for John, but still a lot of change in our household which me and the boys are still definitely getting used to. I don't want to go into everything too much, as I'm so mindful of how what you put online isn't really footprints in the sand, more of giant footprints in wet concrete, so I don't want to put anything out there that I may want to take back in a few months or years. You have to be considerate of which I'm trying my absolute best to be. So 2020..