SHOULD MY CHILDREN SHARE A BEDROOM

Sharing a bedroom with my sister brings some of the fondest memories of my childhood along with some of the worst, which I can laugh about now - her snoring would have me in tears. It makes me question whether my boys should share a bedroom, is it a bit mean to put them together when we have space for their own rooms, or is this just a part of childhood? I've read so many articles, blog posts and heard lots of different points of view on the matter, it seems everyone's children handle the situation differently, so it got me thinking, should my boys share a bedroom?

As I mentioned, my sister and I shared a room for many years, with only 3 years between us it made sense. We had our own bedrooms, until my youngest brother (the fourth child) came along, which resulted in me and Lucy sharing, but over time as we moved into bigger houses, we each had our own bedrooms by the time we reached teenage years. I remember being up at night talking complete nonsense and gibberish, we'd even make up our own language and pretend to talk to each other in it, I'm sure we were quite the pain to our parents who just wanted us to go to sleep - but they are some nice memories that I most definitely wouldn't have had, had we not shared a bedroom. So, will my boys get to experience the same, and if so, when? I do hope at some point Noah and Patrick will share a bedroom, I feel it's almost a vital part of growing up. They'll learn to co-operate with each others wishes and needs - I know, I know, I'm being incredibly optimistic here, they'll probably fight like cat and dog and all I'll here is 'Muuuuum, tell him' down the stairs every five minutes. There bedtime will be a similar time as they're so close in age, so in a few years I really can't see there being any huge issue with room sharing.


I have definitely had a good nosy on pinterest to source out what style of bedroom would work for them, we currently live in a three bedroomed house, and I would ideally like for their bedroom to be a place for slumber and comfort and then what would be our spare room, to be turned into a crazy, colourful playroom that they can go wild in. Either room isn't exactly spacious, but I think as parents we all know a pinterest hack or two too make the most of space. I've shared below some of the styles I really love the look of, but of course it will ultimately come down to what the boys have interests in at that age. Sharing a room isn't something I would do from their current age, as Patrick is just a baby he does sometimes wake, albeit rarely, and I wouldn't want that to disturb Noah as it seems a little unfair. Though if I'm honest, that boy could most definitely sleep through a hurricane - he takes after his father. I know a lot of people see it a little unfair to make children share when you have the space, but I am noting it all down to a character building experience for them both. What's the worst that can happen? Well, I've asked some fellow bloggers who's little ones do share to let me know how they think it's benefited their family.

Natasha from Mummy and Moose said 'In our old house my son and daughter shared and they were so close, it was lovely to see how well they got along'

Sarah from The Parenting Trials explained how 'I have a three year old boy and a five year old girl that share, and it has been hard at times. But, they love having each other for company, if one of them wakes in the night or in the morning, they climb into the others bed. It's very cute to see'

Rebecca from Mum of a Premature Baby let us know that 'My four year old boy and two year old girl share. They settle well knowing that they're together and a huge positive for me is that when they wake up at the crack of dawn, they'll play quietly with toys together before waking me'







9 comments

  1. I shared a room with my sister back in the days & it didn't go well. Although, if your boys get along well then they should at least try sharing :D my mum put us in the same room trying to make us to get along & that didn't work the way she planned :D

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  2. My girls are probably going to need to share a room, but they are both such bad sleepers I'm not quite sure how it's going to work. It's such a gamble isn't it? I think it's worth giving it a go though.

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  3. I loved the few months that my sister and I shared a room while her room was decorated. My older 2 have shared a room since Anya was about 18 months. We are currently debating how to move Zach: does he go in with both of them, shjould he have a room to himself, should Anya get her own room or Matthew. Long term Anya will need her own space being the only girl but at the moment they all want to go in together

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  4. Love your room ideas for them! I had my two sharing last year but they are now in separate rooms, however the boys will share once Benjamin leaves our room. I think it's practical and nice for them too x

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  5. My girls share and I love that they do. If we ever move to a bigger house I will probably keep them sharing just incase we have another. Plus they like it too :) but saying that I have never had my own room as I shared with my sister until I moved out with James ox

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  6. We have a small box room as our 3rd room and whilst N is a baby it's fine, but we may consider bunk beds in the bigger room when they are older. I def think there are both pros and cons!! X

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  7. Jess still shares with me and she will till she is nearly 3 because it is not looking like we are going to be able to get our house till at least next summer. I think that sharing a room is great for character building because they never feel like that they have to be on their own. However, I do like the idea of children not sharing because it means that you have a double the rooms to decorate which is something which appeals to me

    Charlotte x

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  8. I live in a 3 bed house with 3 boys. all 3 of them share in the smallest room and use the larger one as a play room. It makes sense in our house.

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  9. Mine are too different in ages to share a room, but I often feel that that is a missed opportunity for them.

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