POSTPARTUM BODY PRESSURE
I have seen a lot of talk lately, whether they're from magazines, newspapers, bloggers or just general comments across social media about women losing the baby weight, some have claimed women who don't are lazy and others suggest they're not doing enough. I think it's down right insulting and rude, if someone was to go through major surgery and pack on a few pounds I'm sure nobody would bat an eyelid, so why all this pressure on new mums? Yes we get it, you're no longer pregnant so come on, there isn't an *excuse* to be carrying the extra pounds, for me, my baby isn't an excuse it's a valid reason. You carry extra weight because you're carrying a life and all of it's life support, from waters and fluid to placenta, all of that adds up so naturally you are going to be heavier. Just like it takes time when pregnant to start gaining the weight, it's going to take some months to loose it too, and that's perfectly fine with me. Suggesting mums are too lazy to lose the body weight is crazy. Don't get me wrong there are opportunities I could utilise but if you can name me one parent to a new baby, whether it's her first, second or fifth child that has time to sit around and do nothing every day then I would be shocked. Sure my kids go to bed in an evening, but I have washing to do, food to cook, dishes to clean, a house to hoover and the next day to prepare for. That's before I even begin to think about luxuries such as a relaxing bath, watching my favourite TV show or spending time with my other half (not so luxurious I know). That's the honest truth. I wish I could afford time to be selfish and head off to the gym for 2-3 hours every evening, I probably could if I pushed it, but at what cost? What I would have to sacrifice in return just isn't worth it for me. I get that instead of playing shopkeepers with my toddler I could be doing squats, or when my baby has a nap instead of batch cooking meals I could prep meals for myself - but my mind just doesn't work like that. There is far too much pressure on mums to sacrifice what they want for what society deems they should want aka. a hot bod. I recently set up a poll across my Twitter, and out of 60 people who responded, 78% said they felt pressured into loosing weight postpartum. I find the results appalling. Giving birth is the most monumental thing you can put your body through as a women, so to immediately face added pressure from others around us, once you've given birth - I find horrendous.
Lets face it, childbirth wreaks absolute havoc on our bodies no matter which exit route your child chose to take into the world, hips widen, tummys stretch and quite often there are war wounds. To be expected to be up and raring to lose weight a mere six weeks later is insane, at six weeks postpartum I was exhausted, bleeding and couldn't have a bowel movement without crying in pain. Life was tough, so seeing articles and posts shaming women for not wanting to lose weight is sad. Some ladies are desperate to shed those extra pounds but just simply cannot manage it. That's ok. If you are up and raring to get to the gym, well done that is fantastic, but please don't shame other women into feeling as though they should do the same, that' isn't ok. Like I said, our bodies do amazing, fantastic things, mine has brought me two beautiful boys into this world, if all I've gained from that is a mum-tum and some stretchmarks then I am in absolutely no rush to change that in order to fit societies or 'Becky, from gym bunny mummys' expectations.
(ps. if there is a Becky who is a gym bunny mummy - apologies, this was used in gest!)