MY THOUGHTS ON CONTRACEPTION

Contraception is usually the very first thing your doctor talks about with you post baby, it's almost a little off putting if I'm honest during a 6-8 week check. After both sons I have felt that appointment is more to ensure I wont be getting pregnant again soon, as opposed to a 'How are you feeling' kind of thing. I'm well aware of the time your body needs to recover however, but having two children back to back would be something I made damn sure of never happened. Contraception after Patrick was a subject I didn't really want to think too much about, I've felt extremely frustrated with it over the years and given the fact I fell pregnant with Noah whilst using it, I didn't really have a huge amount of faith.

After I gave birth to Noah, at my check up I was immediately asked what where my plans for contraception now. Through a bit of pressure combined with the fact I was completely blindsided to be asked about such a thing - let's be realistic, I'd just had 28 stitches down below, I wasn't even sure it would work anymore. I fumbled some answer about the pill not working previously and me not wanting to use any long term contraceptive solutions to which she pushed the idea of the injection upon me - I caved and around 2 minutes later I was jabbed in the leg. This was probably one of my worst mistakes, I had done absolutely zero research around it, and what should have stopped my periods for three months instead gave me some sort of endless time of the month. It was definitely alarming as I'm regular as clockwork usually and with the knowledge we probably would expand our family one day, I certainly didn't want to be messing my 'working' system around. Thankfully it was a short term contraceptive, and three months later I did not re-book my second one.

I haven't really ever spoken about how I fell pregnant with Noah - it's definitely quite a story as I didn't actually find out until I was 21w+5, as you can imagine to a twenty one year old me and a not much older John, it was a shock. More so given the fact I was actually using the pill at the time - so I guess you could say my experiences have never been good. After Patricks birth, when the 6-8 'check' came along I was much more equip and firmly explained that for now I was happy using condoms but if my preferred method changed, of course I would be back. I've made no secret of the fact we don't intend to grow our family any more just yet, if ever at all so contraception is something that is a must for us. More and more I'm thinking about other methods for me, I'm incredibly wary about asking the doctor for their advice as whenever I enter one of their surgeries I feel like a little child again, finding myself nodding along in agreement to something I completely do not want. I have noticed websites offering a online doctor. Lloydspharmacy have possibly my favourite of all options I've seen, I was able to browse every single form of contraceptive pill on offer, it listed their side affects as well as detailed descriptions of each pill - what it does and doesn't do. This was fantastic for someone like me, who wouldn't feel comfortable asking all of those questions or even remembering the answers - to a doctor.

So it poses the question, what am I going to do about contraception? At the minute, absolutely nothing, we're more than happy with how things work at the moment and longer term options just don't sit right with me. I squirm a little at the thought of the coil, which is incredibly ridiculous given I've pushed two babies out and my smear test approaching really doesn't phase me. I'm not a huge fan that such forms of contraception also interfere with your hormones, fertility can diminish at any point and just because I have had two boys easily doesn't mean that will the same in the future.

8 comments :

  1. I need to get my head around what to do going forwards in terms of contraception! Wish I didn't have to think about it as would rather not take anything or mess with my hormones but we are clearly pretty fertile so cannot risk it!!! 🙈

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  2. I have no idea which contraception I'll choose. We've always used only condom (TMI haha), because I'm afraid that if I go on the pill my hormones get messed up. Don't know why I'm so afraid of that when I've never tried them :D

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  3. As you know I went on the coil after Benjamin having conceived two out of three of my kids whilst on the pill (!). I'm still not 100% sure about it but I'm now around 2 months in and the bleeding seems to have finally settled down at least! x

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  4. I went on the coil, pre having a baby and it was absolutely horrendous and something that I would never try again! I did go on the injection, but now being 30+ its deemed as no longer suitable. But I too was on the pill when I feel pregnant, its a tough one, but I guess it is all trial and error and finding what fits with you. x

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  5. We were spoken to about contraceptive before we were even discharged from hospital, it makes sense as I had had sex several times by the time of my 6 week check. It seems surprising the number of people who don't realise you can get pregnant before your period restarts and I know quite a few people who have had their second baby before their first turns 1!

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  6. I love the patch - so easy and effective! Best contraceptive ever, and I've tried a lot!

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  7. I feel the same as you on the whole topic of contraception after children. I dont think we'll be having more, but I still dont want to mess my system around and I kind of feel like all the more longer term contraceptives do. We've taken the same approach as you guys, but it makes me nervous not having anything a bit more robust in place. Saying that though, it sounds like it isnt always as robust as you expect it to be. Such a dilemma! Em

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  8. I completely agree with you here, at my 6 week check up they pretty much forced me to go on contraception which I now wish I had refused.. i was on the pill from 6weeks pp until my daughter was a year old (she's now 14 months) The pill started to make me feel really down & depressed, and just generally not myself - I feel alot better after coming off of it - they don't really warn you about the side effects which is sad really.. The thought of the coil makes me feel sick too, so for now I'm sticking with you.. girl power! www.mummyandlissblog.com

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