Baby Number 2? The Ordinary Moments.

A question that wasn't even questioned by most midwives (literally hours after I'd given birth to Noah) It was merely assumed that everyone will have another baby. And after the traumas that can be childbirth, this isn't always the case. Some people do only want one child, or can only have one. For some people it isn't a choice and it's just a given, so I find it almost ignorant for people to ask the question 'When are you having another?', it's often nonchalant but none the less alarming that most people seem to have decided a family with one child isn't acceptable.

That being said, for me it's always been hard to picture Noah as an only child, seeing as I was one of 4. John being one of 2, and a man, was a little more comfortable with the idea. Pregnancy was enjoyable for me, labor not so much, but the recovery was pretty harrowing so for a long while I was also very comfortable with Noah being an only child (selfish maybe). But as Noah has grown and become such a caring, kind little soul, I definitely feel he'll miss out on so much if he doesn't have a sibling. We both want him to have someone to pretend to feed his latest concoctions too, someone to squabble over who gets the last Yorkshire pudding at Sunday lunch and more importantly someone who'll be there when we no longer are. After deliberating all that, it was easy for us as long as nothing comes in our way - we would like another baby. So then it poses the question of when, and how big of an age gap? Between my older brother and I is 5 years, 3 between my big sister and I and then 8 between me and my younger brother. So I have experienced all ends of the spectrum, John has a 2 year gap between himself and his brother Andrew. Me and my older siblings all grew up playing with the same friends, on the same street, we could visit LegoLand and Themeparks and all find something to do, and even now we have all moved out of the Family home, we can visit each other and expand our own families. This is something I want for Noah. I want to be able to take him and his siblings to places, and find age apt activities for all, I want them to attend the same schools at the same time and be able to talk and relate to each other. I was fortunate to get to experience all of that and I hope to be able to pass it on to Noah. But again, that being said, you never know what can happen in life. If we have our way, Noah will have a sibling before he goes to school.

When exactly though, we'll just have to see. Do you want another child, if so when?


8 comments

  1. Great post! This comes at an interesting time for me as we have been having this type of conversation ourselves. We have a just over 2yr old and whilst I loved being pregnant, didn't 'enjoy' labour and wouldn't want to it again however cant see Mia being an only child?! Its so tricky to make the decision and then work out when to have one!
    Thanks for the post :)

    #mummymonday

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  2. Hi! I am finally pregnant with number two, six years after my first. I had a traumatic time with birth, followed by a son who didn´t sleep until he was four so at least for the first two years I couldn´t have imagined having a second child, even though I´m also one of four and wanted lots of children. When we finally tried, things didn´t go as planned but after lots of heartbreak I finally fell pregnant. I have said though that number three will be coming straight after number two as I regret that Oliver had nobody at home to play with but us! #MummyMonday

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  3. I always wanted more than one so when Charlie was 4.5 we had another - well, two! Yes we jumped from 1 to 3 with twins so we had a complete family and I'm so glad we did as I adore seeing them all play together x

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  4. Great post and I think it is really strange when people question your family make up. I know they don't mean anything by it but it is so personal. I have two little girls and I always said that I wanted two, but as they are growing up I really would love a third. Whether we do or not remains to be seen but it is exciting to think about it anyway. x

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  5. Lovely post. There are just under 3 years between my two girls which I have found to be a nice age gap. However now my youngest is 2 I am starting to think about having another. Although I do feel a little nervous about changing our family dynamics. We will see. I do love seeing the bond between my two girls though. x

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  6. I constantly get asked if and when I'm having another child as my girly is fast approaching 3. My general answer to people outside of my family is "no I'm happy with one" but the other week I was told I was selfish for having one. I'd love to have two, there's a 3 year gap between my sister and I, but I think it has to suit the family making the decision and for me, who knows what the future holds x

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  7. I think now that Zach is 8 months I'm going to start getting asked that, but it's such a funny question isn't it! I have a half sister who is 13 years younger than me, so for my entire childhood I wan an only child and I loved it as I was always centre of attention haha! I think that's why some people want to have more than one ;) After giving birth I was sure I didn't want to have another because I didn't want to ever go through that again, but as time goes on I'm now not sure! Who knows if we will have another one! xx

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  8. I have three already...but would love another! As you say they are great company for each other and will have so much fun growing up with their siblings!

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